Your cousin is dating a person accused of killing his last wife. He has not been convicted. Do you tell her you don't want him around and do you tell the rest of the family?

The key word is 'not convicted!' Don't start trouble before you know the facts. You should be able to look up the case quite well. If this person was not convicted because of the lack of evidence then you have something to worry about. Some people are wrongly accused of murder.

Since there seems to be a rash of men killing their wives in the past 2 years you do have the right to be concerned. Start digging, go to the police and ask them where you can get some information on this person. If it was a newsworthy case then there should be information in the library newspaper archives and the librarian will help you out there.

For now, don't condemn this person and certainly don't tell your cousin. If you are wrong you could ruin her relationship with him and your relationship with her. To haul family into this only adds wood to the fire.

You want to know, do the research! If you have more information on this man then please post it and I'll do what I can on the research end of it. I would need to know the city, town and state and the date of trial and the name of the person (I would delete the name of the person you posted as soon as I wrote the name down).

You can also look up criminal court records. Going to the police and expressing your concerns would be a help (hopefully.) If they say this isn't a good mix with this man then tell your cousin, but let her digest this before telling family. 9 changes out of 10 she won't believe you anyway and you'll turn out to be the bad guy unless you can prove differently.

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