Why do people rock back and forth?

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i think that some people rock back and forth because they feel insecure and lonley. maybe if some people tried to comfort them they wouldn't do that anymore!

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 4 years and lived together a year. We just moved in together about a year and a half ago. I remember within the 4 years of us dating he rocked but I never understood it. Sometimes when I was upset with him while we were laying in bed he would rock and I would think he was doing it to make me mad cause I can't stand movement in the bed. I have to lay still. Now that we've moved in together a year ago he rocks every night, when hes thinking or when he's upset. It's very odd to me that he does this and I've read peoples answers about rocking and it is a common thing with people. These stories have really helped me understand what he's going through. I would get mad at him when were watching tv together and he would leave to go rock in the bedroom...but now i know that i can't get mad because it's a problem with him and he cannot help what he does. Thanks everyone. If anyone finds an Answer to why or a clue why... please let me know.





ANSWER

it is most certainly a comforting action.

what ever reason something has made them need to feel comforted

biologicaly you are mimicking the rythem and movement of your heartbeat, it is one of the most calming noises and sensations in any animals mind infact some of the greatest songs in the world mimic the beat of the heart as it connects with people on a level they dont understand but makes them like the music, eg, Beethoven's moonlight sonata (my fave ever piece of classical music btw)

im sorry your boyf is needing comfort so badly to the poster above, i hope he is ok. try him with the sonata. i know it always makes me feel, a lot of things not just sad.
massive attack-teardrop is also a good 'feeling' song with a good heartbeat based beat.
jose gonzales- heartbeat, is a brill emotional heartbeat based song too, the knife-marble house, is a little odd but the beat is great for this
portishead-glorybox slow, calming voice and heartbeat based beat. but it does have a few louder parts.
and the sonata for me the best version is piano, 14, c minor

and my boyf and i rock a lot hugging, mostly in bed as bed is very comfortable, its a show of just how comfortable we are together and how much we feel that comfort and need to externalise it.

also when people cry really badly, or are internally troubled in some way, myself included in these, they rock again its purely looking for comfort.
(also when you think about it, the most comfortable you will probably be in your life is when your mother rocked you as a baby, thats the feeling we are all trying to recreate in our lives.)

i hope the music helps your boyf and yourself, and maybe he should see a councillor or someone who he can talk to about everything, you included, to figure out, if he dosnt know, whats wrong.
also if he has a problem with releasing his emotions, ie dosnt talk a lot about problems, dosnt cry at upsetting things etc this can be a reason for the need to rock, and it is certainly healthier for people to get it out.
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