Why do kids get bullied?

Why Do Kids Get Bullied?

• Maybe it's because the bully feels weak and must show some strength by bothering others or he may have low self-esteem and may want to pick on someone that is weaker for attention.

• The simplest answer is 'because some people (including some kids) are serial bullies'. Some children from happy, harmonious homes may have relatively little experience in handling conflict and in standing up for themselves. (For example, at first they may do nothing, then lose their temper). They may need specific advice on dealing with bullies. See Related Links.

• I went to school in the 1950s and there was even bullying then, but certainly not as bad as it is today. Bullying is a heavy duty problem in the school systems and needs to be stopped. Bullying has caused children to live in fear of being at school, accepted for who they are, walking to and from school and this can lead to the victim running away, grades failing, unfortunately suicide in some kids and as we all know about Columbine we sure should learn from this. Most shootings at school are about kids that have been bullied one too many time. Of course this is not the normal reaction a victim should have, but it does happen. Girls bullying are ranking almost neck-in-neck with the boys! Most people are bullied more than once in their lifetime. It's certainly not uncommon. If you can walk away from the situation then do so. If you can't do the best you can and if the bully is carrying a weapon run as fast as you can to any house and bang on the door or run into a store for help. Try to stay with groups of kids instead of wandering around alone. Bullies look for kids who are small in stature, quiet, shy and will simply pick on them for the sake of it or because they could be smart or the bully doesn't like the look of them. It is said that if a bully comes towards you walk tall, stare straight ahead (not at the bully) DON'T LOWER YOUR HEAD and say nothing! Sometimes this method works and sometimes it doesn't. It is tough on kids today to report bullies to their counselor or teachers at school and especially their parents because reporting a bully always gets back to the bully and things can become worse for the victim (even the bullies gang can come after the victim.) Parents need to take this very seriously. The bullies of today just don't give you a black eye or split lip, but they can maim a victim severely and it can lead to death in some cases. Not too long ago a gay man in Vancouver, B.C., had gone to a straight bar and simply had a drink. A group of bullies didn't particularly like a gay in the bar and followed the victim out the door and beat him to death. British Columbia has a zero tolerance for this behavior and the law comes down heavy on bullies and it should be this way. The educational system is also picking up the pace. Some people list "bullying" as pecking order related. Meaning the stronger survive and the weaker lag behind. I disagree with this theory and find bullies are simply bullies and must be stopped! If bullies were so fearless and strong then they wouldn't be picking on the smaller kids or the kids they know won't fight back. In Canada bullying is taken seriously and society and government is making the parents more accountable for their bullying children. It's quite surprising what one can find out about a bully: Bullies are frustrated individuals that are angry inside. They may come from divorced parents, to abusive parents or no parents at all or parents that don't care and simply let the bully run wild in the streets. I was quite surprised that some fathers will belittle their sons (especially) by saying, 'There are only winners in this world, not losers' or, 'quit being a baby and stand up for yourself. 'Get the first punch in! Do what you have to do to win!!!' Apparently some fathers feel winning is everything and in 50% of these fathers have indeed failed miserably in their own lives and are living through their son(s). Some fathers were jocks or over achievers and expect their children (especially sons) to be the same. I was bullied when I was 12 by a male about three to four years older than I was. I took this abuse for two years until he made the mistake of picking on my five year old brother. Something snapped in me and I beat the pulp out of that bully! That was the end of any bullying I would receive from him. Odd, but it took him picking on someone I loved to get me to act on it. Ever since that day I have not been afraid of anyone, but, I am smart and know when to stay clear of troublesome people or places and don't take any risks I don't have too.

• If a kid tends to get bullied and abused at home, they're more likely to want to bully people at school and other activities. Kids get bullied for a number of reasons. I've been bullied before, I know people who've been bullied. A kid bullies to get attention or have been bullied before.
• Some bullies come from miserable homes, where the family members are often angry with one another, nobody has much respect for others, where they shout and swear when they don't get their way, and where some violence is commonplace. The children grow up thinking that bullying is standard. They then behave appallingly badly to others.
• Never blame the victim. It's not very helpful to tell the victims to stand up for themselves, unless you are also willing to give practical advice on how they should do this. If you don't explain what is involved, they may take this to mean physical violence, for example. For some victims, the trouble is that they have little idea of how to stand up for themselves.

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