What is the best type of birth control if your boyfriend will not use a condom and you are not on the pill?

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My advice would be to refrain from sex. If your boyfriend is refusing to use a condom he doesn't have your best interest in mind. When it comes to sex and not using a condom, pregnancy is the least of your worries. Even if your boyfriend is a virgin, which you have no proof to go by, there is no way to keep him from having sex with someone else. Any man who refuses to use a condom, is a man who shouldn't get any booty from anyone.

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Abstinence; not having sex. Or get on the pill, get on the patch, get on some other form of birth control. Condoms are the only thing you can buy in a store that I know of. I know they're coming out with the women's condom, but I don't know if it is out in stores or not. He needs to wear a condom or not get sex until you are on some other form of birth control. Pulling out will NOT work.

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Other forms of birth control are spermicides in the form of foams, suppositories, sponges or film. Most spermicides need to be inserted no earlier than 15 minutes prior to sex and no later than 1 hour, VCF which is a contraceptive film is good not before 25 minutes but will protect you for up to 3 hours. One thing to note is that spermicides alone are reportedly 74% effective with perfect use. Those odds are pretty risky but better than no protection at all.

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This question is not about birth control but rather personal responsibility. The best type of birth control for you would be to get a new boyfriend. If he knows you're not on the pill and yet refuses to use a condom, he is obviously more interested in his own satisfaction and cares nothing about you. If indeed you do get pregnant I fear you will find that he will drop you like a hot potato and go in search of another partner. Who would knowingly put someone at risk? Not a boyfriend; but your's would, what does that tell you.

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From A guy's perspective I agree with #3 and also #1. They took the words from out of my mouth...er fingers.

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Since I don't see you abstaining, Planned Parenthoods provide lower cost birth control to women and teenage girls. It still won't protect you from STD's, which are very easy to get and some don't have apparent symptoms (HPV).

Your boyfriend should be wearing a condom, no matter his complaints. I personally would not have sex with this loser. He risks not only getting STDs from other people, but also giving STDs to other people, namely you. Would you still love him if he "acidentally" got you pregnant or gave you herpes?

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Myself, I thought answer #1 and #3 were a bit too tame. I didn't see castration amongst the options but it seems to be the most appropriate in this case.

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If your "boyfriend" is not willing to use a condom, AND knows that you are not on the pill, then I would say that he IS still a boy, but is NOT being your friend.

Your immediate response should be:Fella, YOU are NOT even getting close to sex this week because *I* am not the least bit interested in being pregnant... and I KNOW that you don't look like a guy who is ready to spend the next 20 years raising kids.

_{Sure, I know... It's not JUST what HE wants. You are BOTH into each other - and want to just spend hours makin' all the right moves to make each other so shudderingly-happy-wild every ounce of your soul wraps around his, until you both collapse in breathless surrender...}

BUT: Sit back for a minute, or several days! If this guy wants even to be your boyfriend, let alone your lover, then he will wait a while, till the birth control is taken care of. If this guy won't hang around that long, he wasn't worth it anyway. If he just tries to "wait you out" and convince you that the "BC's" or condom's aren't important - then move on, he's playing you dumb!

From what you've said, it doesn't sound like this guy is the least bit concerned about what might happen if you get pregnant...but he DOES sound like he wants to sweet talk you ANY way neccesary to spend some naked fun time having sex, before he moves on to some other girl.

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if he refused to use a condom, he wouldnt be my boyfriend. do you want an STD? Chances are, if he wont use a condom with you, he hasnt with anyone else. and that is NASTY!

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tell the jurk"well how do you feel about a kid screming in your ear 24 7 and giting up to feed him/ her every 2/3 hours in the night if that dose not work them forget him

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A new boyfriend. Really, if he wants to have sex with you but isn't willing to assume some of the responsibility then he isn't mature enough for sex, even if he is 35. If he won't man up and wear a condom he is not as concerned with your health and safety as he is with his immediate pleasure. Sex, pregnancy and STDs are serious business and you both should take them seriously and be aware that the risk is there and have talked about what you will do if the situation arises. Once he gets aroused he will produce fluid that does contain sperm and if you get it to your vagina, by contact with his penis, fingers, mouth etc you might get pregnant. Not highly likely but possible. Condom warnings will tell you that the proper time to put the condom on is when the erection happens, not just when you are ready for intercourse. There are female condoms, cervical caps, diaphrams, spermicdal jellies, sponges, gelatin squares and other contraceptive measures but the pill and the condom are the two most effective. And the condom is the only one that helps to prevent STDs. I like the parachute theory of always have a main chute and a backup every time you jump. Pick two and use them correctly and every time until the day you want to get pregnant. On a side note, Lambskin condoms DO NOT prevent the spread of disease. Herpes, HIV, Hepatitis and HPV are all very real and very permanent. There is NO CURE. The acceptable risk is as close to 0% as you can get. Nonoxynol-9 kills sperm and only sperm. It is active against biological, living organisms. Viruses are not alive. SPERMACIDES KILL SPERM AND NOTHING ELSE. There is NO agent that kills HIV. Being gay does not make you an expert on HIV any more than being hetero makes you an expert on childbirth. Things like HPV can kill and men don't always show symptoms and may not know they have it. Talk to your doctor or go to a local clinic or Planned Parenthood and get real, truthful answers. If he won't use latex (or vinyl if you are allergic) give him his walking papers.

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