What affect does it have on the abuser when the abused partner leaves Just wondering what to expect Thanks?

Effect On An Abuser When The Abused Partner Leaves:

• Abusive behavior can be part of that person's environment growing up, or it can be a learned behavior when the person is out on their own and life throws them some curves and they lack confidence and feel they are failures, or, in some cases that abusive person can simply be mean to the bone. Abusive men (or women) need a victim to either verbally or physically abuse in order for them to make themselves feel more powerful and in control. Abusers need control in their lives and will go to any length to get it. In this case (good for you for having the courage to leave) he may bother you to some extent because 'you are the one that got away' or he may limp off and find another victim. With abusive people they will always seek out another victim to abuse and it has nothing to do with love. It is highly suggested that you be careful and be sure he does not stalk or bother you at home, work or wherever you are and for the next few months it's a good idea to be with another person (such as a girlfriend) and be aware of your surroundings until you are certain he has moved on. You should consider seeking help from programs at the Abused Women's Center to help you cope with what you have been through. Although you may feel free of the hell you have been through verbal or physical abuse (or both) leaves deep scars and these programs give you the tools to cope with past memories and how to handle any problems you may have with your ex partner as well as learning the signs of abusive men that you may date in the future and to know you have the strength to be independent without a man around.

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