If your mother has left you in tears because she forbids you from going on spring break without a chaperon is it because she fears you will try to lose your virginity?

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The truth as a mother myself, I have 2 boys 10& 13 and 1 little girl of 4 months. she might not be afraid of you losing your virginity as much as you being hurt by somebody else like these guys that take advantage of girls or never seeing you again. Be patient there will be other spring breaks and your mom just wants to make sure you see them and as you get old you will see that she loves you very much. try volunteering in a youth project or if you are not that type get ahead in your studies you be surprised when you graduate way ahead of your class.

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The above poster is correct. I am much older than you, but here's a little story that may help you.

I grew up in the 1950s when Rock 'N Roll and Elvis Presley was in. Parents were outraged at the way his wiggled his hips and carried on and forgot the poor guy could sing. Of course us teens just drooled over him. I remember my father letting me see him on the Ed Sullivan Show on TV only because the camera showed him from the waist up. As soon as Elvis Presley sang, "Old Shep" my dad liked him! Still, when Elvis Presley came to Vancouver for a concert I begged, pleaded, promised to do extra chores and even babysit for half the money to go see him, but my parents flat out said no. I was so upset and angry because all my friends were going and I was the odd girl out. I tried sulking, not talking and not eating and my parents ignored me and wouldn't give in. I just knew I would never be able to lift my head up again around my friends because they got to go (some lied to their parents as to where they were going) and I wouldn't be part of the group anymore. I cried myself to sleep the night of the concert and felt so left out and alone.

The moral of this story is .... as soon as the news came on TV the next morning it showed the crowd of teens going crazy when Elvis came out and girls were fainting, some kids were trying to get up on stage and tumbling over one another. There were lists of bad injuries from that concert. The police had to be called in and the teens rioted. I had never experienced such a thing and knew that if I had been there I would have found myself in big trouble. Finally one of my girlfriends phoned crying her eyes out and telling me how scared she was and that her sister Pat had a broken collar bone (someone fell on her) and our other girlfriend Sharon broke her wrist because she tripped and fell and the out-of-control teens stepped right on her! The same thing just happened in Vancouver not long ago when "Gun "n Roses" didn't perform in Vancouver, B.C., as promised. The teens were so angry they trashed B.C. Place and smashed windows, etc. The police were called in and riots started and the fight was on. Some innocent people really got hurt in that riot.

I then realize my parents were protecting me because they loved me and were much wiser than I was. They can't replace a daughter or son like they can a car that's been in an accident and not worth keeping, so safety comes first with parents who love their children (if they are good parents.) I finally knew there were just some things I wasn't ready for as I wasn't experienced enough and had no idea about guys in general or what other teens were capable of doing be it an accident or on purpose. The two girls that lied to their parents were grounded for 2 weeks and missed a great party that my parents did let me go too! LOL

I know it's frustrating to you not to be able to go on Spring Break, but I've been to them a long time ago and they can get rough a rowdy and teens get drinking, doing drugs, not to mention "date rape drugs" that are in now which are very high on the list at Night Clubs, Spring Breaks, etc. It takes a wise individual to catch onto to a lot of things guys say and do and to watch your drink (even if it is pop) and even then you aren't safe.

You are very young and you will have a lot of time to go to Spring Break alone when you are prepared. Yes, it's also a possibility that your mother fears some sex will be involved, but she's not accusing you of acting up, but some guys just aren't nice guys and some bad things can happen. If you really want to go then I suggest you take that charperon along. Most good chaperons will let you have fun and not interfere that much unless they see trouble brewing so consider your chaperon your bodyguard! That's better than not going at all.

First answer by JenyWants2Know. Last edit by Marcy. Contributor trust: 4194 [recommend contributor]. Question popularity: 17 [recommend question]