How does narcissism affect family members?

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The closest adult family members feel dejected after interacting with the N. The N is an emotional 5 year old (other figures quoted are 3 year old and 6 year old) in the body of an adult.

What the person interacting with the N sees is a series of disparate symptoms that he cannot put a finger on.

a) The N leaves you with a feeling of guilt. The N thrives by making you feel guilty and inadequate.

b) The N is like a parasite who clings on to you and keeeps asking for physical/emotional/material stuff to keep him high and you get nothing in return. You stop thinking that you usually are entitled to something in return.

c) You feel emotionally drained and perhaps deep inside want to murder him or atleast get away as far as possible. At this point in time, you may not even know that the N is the cause of this.

d) You stop spending any time with the N. You start keeping different hours/schedules so your need for interacting with him is minimized.

e) You start thinking that you are going crazy and becoming a "bad" person. It starts affecting your relation with other (normal) people.

f) During this time, the N has perhaps made you look like the villain in the family.

g) Most of the family members may not have heard of NPD and may typically not tell each other about their experiences with the N. They tend to feel that the N is just high-strung.

Once all the family members get together the problem and the person that has it would have been identified. Till this time, it would seem like a madhouse without anyone being able to sense exactly what or who is wrong.

First answer by Bertha Turkus. Last edit by Vbala 99. Contributor trust: 540 [recommend contributor]. Question popularity: 168 [recommend question]