How do you avoid being with another narcissist?

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The chances of you actually knowing two authentically clinically diagnosed narcissists in your lifetime is extremely rare. Arrogance is not narcissism.

I understand your concern

I wonder about the same thing. I am resisting the "codependent" theory that would seem to indicate we may be magnets for narcissists and other abusers. I would hate to think that is true(?!). I am trying to establish better boundaries for myself. I have vowed never to take any more sh*t from any man. If I am uncomfortable with something, I will either confront the issue directly for a solution or make the decision to end the relationship (depending on the degree of discomfort or alarm I feel. Some things CAN be worked out in a "normal" relationship.) The bottom line may be: We can't change or fend off the narcissists in our world, but we can change to create barriers to protect ourselves. Healthy self-esteem and proper boundaries may be the key. I am determined not to let this happen to me again!

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